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Turns Out Seeing Your Ex Move On With Lady Gaga Is Actually Empowering AF

"Why should I accept any less than Lady Gaga.”

There’s nothing more soul crushing than seeing your ex move on with someone new. Now, imagine they move on with one of the most famous people in the world. 

Sounds utterly heartbreaking – but for the woman who actually went through it, it was actually an empowering experience.

In a piece for the New York Times, Lindsay Crouse explained what it was like to see her ex boyfriend of seven years, Michael Polansky, make his relationship with Lady Gaga official. 

“I dated this normal, mystery man for seven years,” Crouse wrote. “Our relationship lasted all of college, and then a few years more. (A popular song back then described being ‘caught in a bad romance.’”

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Crouse explained that after she broke up with Polansky, he blocked her on Facebook and they both moved on – until recently. “I hadn’t Googled him in forever (I promise). But this month I knew everything about his new relationship status, within hours of when it was disclosed.”

Just when you start thinking – yep, this sounds like an absolute nightmare – Crouse reveals that seeing the relationship play out so publicly was actually positive. “Instead of thinking, ‘Why not me?’ when I see them together, I think ‘That was me,’” she wrote. “It pulls the illusion of celebrity down.”

In fact, Crouse found Polansky and Gaga’s new relationship “motivational.” “I went to a nice store I’d never been inside before and I tried something on. The clerk asked me what the occasion was. I found out from Facebook that my ex-boyfriend was dating Lady Gaga, I told her, and she looked me up and down.”

“The dress was too expensive, but I bought it anyway. Why should I accept any less than Lady Gaga.”

“It’s so easy as you get older to find the best in who you’ve become, to make the most of it – and maybe even to get a little complacent about it,” Crouse wrote. “But if Lady Gaga can do what she wants, and even expand on what she wants, why not me, too?”

Perhaps the cherry on top of the cake was when Crouse noticed Polansky lurking on her Instagram. “Recently someone sent me a photo of my fiance and me dancing at a wedding, and I posted it on Instagram. I saw Lady Gaga’s boyfriend in the views, and I realised we’re actually all the same: strangers, smiling on a screen.” 

So there you have it – it’s not so bad losing your ex to a world famous pop star. It can actually do wonders for your self-esteem, which is something we can all get on board with.

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50 Cent Thinks It's Hilarious To Tear Down Dwyane Wade's Trans Daughter

This is not okay.

Instagram can bring us plenty of joy – and keep us connected – but it can also shine a light on some pretty awful behaviour, and a rather sad state of affairs. Case in point: 50 Cent’s ‘joke’ about Dwyane Wade’s transgender daughter.

The rapper took to Instagram earlier this week to share a meme depicting convicted sex offender R. Kelly sat next to Dwyane Wade. A speech bubble above Kelly’s head reads, “Heard you had a daughter now,” and another above Wade says, “U touch her I’ll kill ya.”

50 Cent captioned the post, “LOL NOW THIS SOME FUNNY SH*T.”

Credit: @50Cent

While the rapper copped a fair amount of backlash for his post, other comments encouraged the behaviour and one even suggested Wade had “failed fatherhood.”

Earlier this month, Dwyane Wade confirmed his 12-year-old daughter Zaya was transgender and that she had told he and wife Gabrielle Union she was “ready to live my truth.”

“We are proud parents of a child in the LGBTQ+ community – and we’re proud allies as well,” Wade told Ellen.

Unfortunately, 50 Cent isn’t the only high profile celebrity to disapprove of Zaya’s decision to publicly identify as she/her. Rappers Young Thug and Boosie Badazz also made transphobic remarks in since-deleted Tweets following the announcement. 

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Despite the negative and offensive comments, there were other celebrities who ran to Zaya’s defence. Rapper Cardi B took to Instagram Live to tell her followers, “I understand that they just don’t be understanding certain sh*t, but please try to understand.”

“Because sometimes you will be wanting people to understand you. So try to understand somebody else. Especially when it is a child.”

Speaking to Zaya directly, Cardi said, “Speak your truth. Speak your truth, and educate.”

According to Business Insider and a study conducted by doctors at Massachusetts General Hospital this January, transgender youth who are able to begin taking hormone blockers when they want to and before puberty have a lower risk of suicide later in life. 

It’s so important to appreciate the efforts Dwyane Wade and Gabrielle Union are trying to make to honour their daughter’s decision to come out and protect her mental health. Instead of spreading hate about something they don’t understand, people like 50 Cent with a public platform should educate themselves and encourage acceptance.

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What Is ‘Familicide’ And How Do We Solve It?

Hannah Baxter and her three children were killed in a car fire this week.

If you or someone you know is struggling with issues related to domestic violence, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or 1800 RESPECT for support services. 

Brisbane mother Hannah Baxter, and her three young children Laianah, Aaliyah and Trey were recently killed by her estranged husband Rowan Baxter in a horrific car fire.

It is being widely reported that Mr Baxter doused the car containing his wife and children with petrol before setting it alight. Witnesses report that Ms Baxter jumped from the car screaming, “he’s poured petrol on me.”

Sadly, she suffered significant burns and later died at Royal Brisbane and Women’s Hospital. Mr Baxter reportedly died nearby the scene from a self-inflicted stab wound. 

Credit: AAP Image/Facebook

The story of the Brisbane car fire is utterly heartbreaking, but sadly, it’s all too familiar. The idea that a parent could kill their child is unbelievable, let alone the killing of their entire family, commonly referred to as familicide. 

According to The Nature and Prevalence of Familicide in the United States from the Journal of Family Violence, ‘Familicide’ refers to “the killing of multiple family members, most commonly the homicide of an intimate partner and at least one child.”

In recent years, the world has been rocked by high profile familicide cases, including the Watts family murders of 2018. Like the Brisbane car fire killing of Hannah Baxter and her children, Shan’ann Watts and her two young daughters Bella and Celeste were brutally murdered by their husband and father, Christoper Watts. Bella and Celeste’s bodies were disposed of in oil tanks, and Shan’ann was buried in a shallow grave at his work site.

Watts plead guilty to the murder of his family and was sentenced to five life sentences without the possibility of parole. 

Christopher Watts. Credit: Sangosti/The Denver Post via Getty Images

While familicide is clearly an issue on an international scale, domestic violence – and specifically, violence against women – is particularly pertinent here in Australia. According to the Australian Institute of Criminology, on average, one woman per week is murdered in Australia by a current or former male partner.

The data clearly presents a huge problem, but the question is: what is the solution?

In 2012, the Australian government launched the National Plan to Reduce Violence Against Women and their Children, however it has been argued that there has been little improvement in the services available to women, or the reduction of violence. 

Perhaps the solution lies deeper, in the fabric of our society. In an interview with the BBC, Sex Discrimination Commissioner Kate Jenkins said, “We will only be able to eradicate violence against women and their children, when women are not only safe, but respected, valued and treated as equals in private and public life.”

When it comes to familicide, particularly as a result of custody disputes, perhaps it comes down to recognising the ‘risk factors’ early on. In a 2012 interview on Conversations, Assistant Professor Carolyn Harris Johnson – who has done extensive research on familicide – said, “I hope that my research has made people more aware of the risk factors, one of which is a parent – usually a father – with an obsessive, controlling personality, and a history of threats to kill and/or commit suicide.” It’s also important to note that not all familicides are committed at the hands of fathers and husbands.

“My research has also shown that in families where intimates are killed by their partners, childhood trauma is a factor with both perpetrators and victims. The experience of such trauma can affect the way an individual relates to others throughout their lifespan and the way they cope with the breakdown of intimate relationships.”

While it appears Australia still has a long way to go when it comes to stopping these tragic events from occurring, it’s so important to keep the conversation going and emphasise the services that are currently available, including White Ribbon, Lifeline, 1800 RESPECT and more

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