Forget Ghosting And Breadcrumbing, 'Stashing' Is The Scariest Dating Trend


Remember when dating was just…dating? Sadly, those days of chocolate and roses are long gone. From catfishing to breadcrumbing and ghosting, there are more dating ‘trends’ than there are dating apps these days, making finding love an absolute minefield. 

In 2020, we have a new dating trend to be afraid of. Introducing….‘stashing.’

According to Refinery29, ‘stashing’ is “when you date someone who’s happy to spend time with you one-on-one – but they never introduce you to their friends and family.”

Apparently, the term was first coined by Metro UK writer Ellen Scott in 2017, who defined it as “a super fun dating trend in which someone is dating someone else, but had decided to hide them away from everyone in their life.”

“A victim of stashing is hidden from every other part of the stasher’s life – from their tagged photos to their casual chats with their parents. Why? Because that way, they’re able to pretend that they’re not really dating the person they’re stashing, meaning they can justify getting with other people, doing whatever they fancy, and being generally inconsiderate and awful,” Scott wrote.

Honestly, stashing sounds bloody awful – and it could be one of the worst dating trends out there. Sadly, it’s not the only one we’re going to facing in 2020. ‘Fleabagging’ is another trend to watch out for on your dating journey.

Inspired by Phoebe Waller-Bridge’s character in her show Fleabag, ‘fleabagging’ is “the toxic cycle of break up and make up, with that substandard person who does nothing but stress you out,” according to Cosmo’s dating expert Hayley Quinn.

“You could call fleabagging making really bad relationship choices again, and again, and again,” Quinn said. Yikes!

In her TEDx Talk, Quinn says, “we continue to chase love because I think love is sold to us, as almost like the ultimate solution to ourselves: the things that makes our past okay, that gives us direction for the future, and imbues our everyday reality with meaning”.

“Go for people who make time and effort for you and reciprocate this positive behaviour!” she says. “Eventually you’ll find yourself naturally choosing people who choose to prioritise you and in turn, allowing someone to love you as you are.”

Wise words.

Can We Pls Talk About The Glow Up Of ‘My Name Is Earl’ Actor Ethan Suplee?

The Internet is shook.

If your New Year’s resolution was to get jacked, you’re gonna need some serious inspo and no one is a better source of that right now than actor Ethan Suplee.

Remember this guy!? He was in Remember the Titans, My Name is Earl and Boy Meets World, but has come a long way since his early days in the spotlight.

MY NAME IS EARL. Ethan Suplee as Randy Hickey. Credit: Justin Lubin/NBC/NBCU Photo Bank

Photos have surfaced of the actor quite literally looking half the man he used to be, and it’s safe to say, the Internet is shook.

In a new episode of his podcast American Glutton, the now 43-year-old actor opened up about his incredible weight loss journey and unhealthy relationship with food that started at just five years old.

After doing “all the diets” Suplee said “I had this idea now that food was something that people didn’t want me to have.” 

“So if I wanted to have more, I needed to do it privately, and it became something that I was withholding from people,” he said, revealing that he weighed over 90 kilograms by the time he was age 10. 

Despite losing hundreds of pounds, Suplee said his dramatic weight loss hasn’t actually been that great for his acting career. His co-host even noted that “we were all used to your My Name Is Earl weight or more.”

It’s a similar story for fellow actor and comedian Seth Rogen, who after losing a significant amount of weight a few years ago said, “you probably all notice that I’m around 10 pounds less funny.” 

“I think for chubby guys, I was their guy,” he told interviewers. “They were like, ‘I can be chubby – Seth Rogen’s chubby, so who cares.’ But now I’m not so chubby anymore – I’ve let them down.” 

Seth Rogen. Credit: Jerod Harris/Getty Images

After experiencing wildly fluctuating weight over the years, Ethan Suplee is now focusing on increasing his muscle mass and using food as “functional fuel.” 

It’s pretty damn impressive to watch someone shed so many kilos and get fit without the help of big Hollywood trainers, but most importantly make their health their wealth, no matter what.

The Veronicas Are Right, Protesting Drag Queen Story Time Only Creates Trauma

"You don’t get to decide what other parents get to enjoy with their children."

UPDATE 15:40pm 13/01: According to reports, Wilson Gavin, the president of the University of Queensland’s Liberal National Club has died in a suspected suicide.

If you, or anyone you know is experience mental health struggles, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636.

The Veronicas singer Jess Origliasso has called out a group of protestors after they stormed a drag queen storytelling event in Brisbane over the weekend, reportedly traumatising a group of children in attendance.

Origliasso posted an Instagram video of the protestors, who entered the LGBTQ event and began chanting “Drag queens are not for kids.” 

According to, police were called to Brisbane Square Library after people complained the protestors were scaring the children. 

“This morning a good friend of mine took her daughter along to a children’s storytelling event in Brisbane by two gorgeous Drag Queens, when a screaming group calling themselves the UQ young Libs stormed the event in a public library, causing chaos and distress to the children and everybody there,” the singer captioned the video.

“What they did today was unnecessarily add to the bigotry, division and trauma young children are left to face in today’s society,” she added. “This was a fun morning put on for families who wanted to be part of it – if you don’t like the idea – don’t go.”

“But you don’t get to decide what other parents get to enjoy with their children,” The Veronicas singer added.

Speaking to Sunrise, drag queen performer Johnny Valkyrie said the protestors “put children, families, staff and the public in the line of conflict and vilification.”

“This is not about politics. This is about humanity,” they told Sunrise. “The family and the children were distressed by the event.”

In an Instagram statement, Rainbow Families Queensland said their event, which was run by “two Blue Card registered and fully trained drag queens,” saw the children enjoy “singing and dancing, reading, and doing craft.”

Rainbow Families also stated that “drag queen storytime is a highly successful event that has been held four times in Brisbane over the past two years,” and added the quote from coordinator Holly Zwalf, “Love makes a family. There’s no room for hate in our hearts.”

The Veronicas, Johnny Valkyrie and Rainbow Families Queensland all make valid points. Protests like this breed hatred, traumatise children and turn a harmless and beautiful event for families into awful experience. 

Echoing the comments of Origliasso, if you don’t agree with it – don’t go, but don’t disrespect and discriminate against others in the process.

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