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Emily Ratajkowski's Feminist Essay Is Quite The Call To Arms, And It's Got Nothing To Do With Body Hair

"Do your thing ladies, whatever it might be."

Emily Ratajkowski is no stranger to making a statement, especially when it comes to feminism and she’s back at it again.

In an Instagram post, the model shared a photo of herself in a black bra showing off her underarm hair to reveal that she’d written a feminist essay for Harper’s Bazaar “about the importance of women’s right to choose (how she dresses, what she posts, if she decides to shave or not) no matter what influences have shaped the way she presents herself”.

She also added, “Do your thing ladies, whatever it might be.”

It turns out the essay has very little to do with body hair, but hey, if that’s what draws people in to read it then that’s still a good thing.

In the essay Emily says she knows the privilege she receives as a cis white woman who is heteronormative but wants to take the opportunity to share with the reader what her experience as a woman has been.

She shares an experience in which she was called “femme” and felt immediately offended, despite the fact that she loves being feminine. She writes that she realised the reason she was offended was because of the many “experiences in which men and women had told me that if I dressed a certain way I wouldn’t be taken seriously and could even be put in danger”.

“I remember being 13, maybe even 12, and having a distinct desire to try on lacy bras and thick gooey lip gloss. It felt fun and exciting. Sure, I’m positive that most of my early adventures investigating what it meant to be a girl were heavily influenced by misogynistic culture.

“Hell, I’m also positive that many of the ways I continue to be “sexy” are heavily influenced by misogyny. But it feels good to me, and it’s my damn choice, right? Isn’t that what feminism is about — choice?”

She adds that despite all the remarks she received, being “hyper feminine grew into something that felt like strength to me”.

In October 2018, Emily was arrested while protesting the nomination of Brett Kavanaugh to the Supreme Court, however, headlines about the event were more often than not about what she was wearing rather than about what she was actually protesting.

“Even women from the left, who fully supported the purpose of my protest, made comments about my missing bra underneath my white tank and jeans. In their minds, the fact that my body was at all visible had somehow discredited me and my political action. But why?

“I often think about this. Why, as a culture, do we insist on separating smart and serious from sexy?”

She makes a great point, why should it matter what a woman is wearing while she’s protesting someone who allegedly sexually assaulted three women. Aren’t we all on the same team?

“As a culture we are scared of women generally, but also, more specifically, of the innate power that female sexuality possesses. A woman becomes too powerful and thus threatening when she takes strength from embracing her sex. Therefore we insist on shaming; we insist that a woman loses something when she flaunts or embraces her sexuality.”

She goes on to say that whether a woman wants to shave her armpits or not is their choice, and if it makes them feel good then it’s the right decision.

“There is no right answer, no choice that makes me more or less of a feminist… As long as the decision is my choice, then it’s the right choice. Ultimately, the identity and sexuality of an individual is up to them and no one else.”

“Women can and should be able to wear or represent themselves however they want, whether it’s in a burka or a string bikini.”

“Ultimately, however one decides to represent themselves, whether it be heteronormative or completely unidentifiable, is that person’s personal choice. Give women the opportunity to be whatever they want and as multifaceted as they can be. Preconceptions be damned.”

I’m sure that a lot of people are rethinking their initial thoughts on Emily whose writing is actually pretty damn inspiring. Let’s remember these words and quit tearing each other down, ladies!

Moby Has Backed Away From His ‘Inconsiderate’ Claims About Natalie Portman

It looks like some lessons were learned!

In case you missed it, earlier this week Moby made headlines after claiming in his new memoir Then It Fell Apart that he dated Natalie Portman back when she was 20 and he was 33

This particularly shocked Natalie, who says they never actually dated. Speaking with Harper’s Bazaar she said, “I was surprised to hear that he characterized the very short time that I knew him as dating, because my recollection is a much older man being creepy with me when I just had graduated high school.”

She added that she was not 20 years old as Moby claimed, and was actually 18, “He said I was 20; I definitely wasn’t. I was a teenager. I had just turned 18. There was no fact checking from him or his publisher — it almost feels deliberate.”

Following Natalie’s interview, Moby took to Instagram to share a post (which has since been deleted) saying their involvement was “brief, innocent, and consensual” adding the backlash he’s received is “affecting [his] business and [his] health”.

Now, Moby has finally apologised for the claims. He took to Instagram once more and wrote, “As some time has passed I’ve realized that many of the criticisms leveled at me regarding my inclusion of Natalie in Then It Fell Apart are very valid.

“I also fully recognize that it was truly inconsiderate of me to not let her know about her inclusion in the book beforehand, and equally inconsiderate for me to not fully respect her reaction.

“I have a lot of admiration for Natalie, for her intelligence, creativity, and animal rights activism, and I hate that I might have caused her and her family distress.”

“I apologize, to Natalie, as well as the other people I wrote about in Then It Fell Apart without telling them beforehand.

“Also I accept that given the dynamic of our almost 14 year age difference I absolutely should’ve acted more responsibly and respectfully when Natalie and I first met almost 20 years ago.”

It’s good to see some lessons were finally learned.

Women In Film And TV That’ll Hold You Tight, Because Mothers' Day Looks Different For Everyone

Settle in for a day of binge-watching.

With Mothers’ Day fast approaching we’ve been thinking about all the women in our lives who have helped make us who we are today – whether that be a grandmother, an aunt, a sister, a friend or even a teacher.

If you’re lucky enough to be able to spend Mothers’ Day with your mum, that’s amazing, but if not, why not spoil someone else who’s been there for you and supported you in your life?

This Sunday, get together with one of those amazing women in your life and settle in for a movie day with some of the most inspiring women in film and TV.

Here are a few suggestions from us:

Legally Blonde

Elle Woods (Reese Witherspoon) is constantly being underestimated, so to show them what she’s made of she gets into Harvard Law School (“What, like it’s hard?) and ends up killing it.

Grace & Frankie

When we meet Grace (Jane Fonda) and Frankie (Lily Tomlin), their lives have been turned upside down as their husbands of over 40 years Robert (Martin Sheen) and Sol (Sam Waterston) reveal they’ve been in love for the last 20 years and want to get married. This leads to one of the greatest friendships of our time and very good television. These women support the hell out of each other and are very entertaining.

Gilmore Girls

We couldn’t not include Gilmore Girls, the relationships between Lorelei Gilmore (Lauren Graham), her daughter Rory (Alexis Bledel) and her mother Emily (Kelly Bishop), make for some of the best scenes.

Mamma Mia!

One of the ultimate mother-daughter movies and set to the music of ABBA, so obviously, a must-watch. Sophie (Amanda Seyfried) invites three men who might be her father to her wedding at her mother’s (Meryl Streep) inn on a Greek island. Drama ensues, obvs.

The Bold Type

The show follows three 25-year-old women, Jane, Kat and Sutton, who work at a popular magazine in New York City. It’s the feminist show we wish we had growing up and tackles a bunch of tough issues such as sexual assault and breast cancer in a really great way. Also, Jacqueline Carlyle (played by Melora Hardin) is the work mum you always wish you had.

Golden Girls

The show starred Betty White, Beatrice Arthur, Rue McClanahan and Estelle Getty as four women who share a house in Miami. They have huge personalities and never apologise for who they are, basically, they’re who we want to be when we grow up.

The Devil Wears Prada

Anne Hathaway and Meryl Streep are amazing in this film about ambitious, career-driven women. Watch this movie and unleash your inner Miranda Priestly.

One Day At A Time

This reboot of the classic 70s and 80s sitcom is being called one of the best reboots ever. The Alvarez family, which includes mum Penelope, her daughter Elena, her son Alex and her mother Lydia, tackles huge topics like alcoholism, the gender pay gap, abusive relationships and it does so in less than 30 minutes – pretty good, eh?

Steel Magnolias

If you feel like having a good cry, make sure you watch this one, an amazing film about the power of female bonds and friendship. ‘Nuff said.

Happy binging!

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