You're Going To Get Screwed Over By AI On Dating Apps And Not In A Good Way
It probably doesn’t need to be said that online dating isn’t easy and is quite a stressful thing we do in the name of meeting that someone special.
Well I’m sorry to bust all the single people folk on dating apps but finding someone online is about to be even more difficult thanks to a worrying rise of deep fakes.
For those who are unaware, deep fakes are incredibly real-looking images or videos of people that are in actuality fake and were created using advancing AI technology.
In the context of online dating, there’s an increasing danger of deep fakes flooding dating apps, there’s a higher possibility of swiping right on fake profiles.
As if it wasn’t hard to have someone swipe right on your profile, it’s now even harder to find that special someone since more and more fake people are polluting the pool of real people and it’s incredibly difficult to tell the difference between the two.
Luckily for single people and those trying to debunk all the deep fakes out there, there are a few ways to identify what’s fake and real. AI-created faces have slight imperfections, such as weirdly-placed hair, facial asymmetry, and smudges on certain surfaces like jewellery and teeth, For videos, deep fakes generally blink far less frequently than real people so keep an eye on their eyes.
So next time you’re swiping and you’re wondering whether a certain person is real or not, your worries are definitely warranted. Be careful and safe swiping, everyone.
This Is Why Your Dating Profile Failed And The Reason You'll Die Alone
No need to wonder what the problem is, it's definitely you.
Using dating apps when you’re a single person these days is a tough thing to do and requires an almost-scientific level of effort and aligning of pieces.
You gotta pick out a handful of photos where you must look good while not giving off the impression you’re a douche, and your profile description should have something funny and insightful while not being too long, pretentious, or rude.
It takes a lot to get that dating profile absolutely right and the amount of effort single people put into those things these days could literally solve the climate change problem.
While dating profile photos are pretty subjective depending on the person, there’s a bit more of a formula to descriptions regarding what works and what doesn’t. So if you’re wondering why you’re not getting any matches despite several winning photos or your face and/or physique, it’s likely because your profile description is writing cheques your pics can’t cash.
Standard stuff like your occupation, hobbies, or a witty one line joke works pretty well. But things like what your future partner must look like and/or earn, and the dreaded “if you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best” line? Immediate left swipe.
So to help all the single swipers out there, the folks over at Reddit have shared the absolute worst things someone can have on their dating profile. If you’ve got one of these cringey lines as your description, best change it right away if you want some matches.
Let’s kick things off, we have a corker here from a well-traveled single person who put down all the countries they’ve visited. If that doesn’t bring up a slight worry, the part where they put down if you wanted to date them then you better bring them to nice places or else is a major red flag.
Sometimes you may not even reach the point where you’ll want to spend time with certain people when they write something insinuating that it is a privilege to just be in their presence.
Asking about what someone does for a living and where they went to school/uni is pretty standard stuff. Except for when they write something as pretentious as this following red flag.
You’re not being witty, you’re basically telling everyone you’re a spoiled brat who is living off your parents.
The whole point of being on these apps is to literally swipe right on people. And besides, what makes you think you’re worthy of people swiping right on you when you write something like this?
When someone goes around proclaiming that they want “no drama,” you know they mean the exact opposite of what they’re saying.
“Fluent in sarcasm” is immediate swipe left material because a) it just screams “I’ve got no imagination” and b) it means you’re not the slightest bit sarcastic or witty.
The whole point of dating apps is to share messages back and forth with someone you’ve matched in order to see if there’s a spark. If someone declares that they won’t message you first, then what’s the point of being on the app?
Not to diss religion or anything, but claiming only God/Buddha/Jebus can judge you is code for “this person is a close-minded dumbass”.
And lastly, there’s the outspoken people who want you to know they’re outspoken and make no apologies for it. This just screams “I’ve got no filter, I never apologise even when I’m wrong, and I will embarrass us in public when we’re out” with the occasional dash of “I’m also a racist/sexist/homophobe.”
And with that, good luck to all of those single people out there trying to find true love on dating apps and here’s hoping you get that profile description perfect before you get swiping and embark on an embarrassing first date.
Flirting With Someone Is So Much Easier When You're Not Actually Attracted To Them
It sounds easy on paper but flirting makes absolutely no sense because there are occasions when your game is on while other times you fall flat on your face. Why are you able to be super charismatic around certain people and yet somehow end up sounding like a dumbass around others?
From past experiences, it seems like the inconsistency of one’s flirting game lies in the initial attraction part.
When you’re attracted to someone, you put pressure on yourself to say the right things in an attempt to try and impress them. Throw in a dollop of fear over the wrong thing and pushing the person away, and what you got is a high stress situation. It makes sense though, you want it to work out so the stakes are high and there’s pressure to deliver.
But when you’re not attracted to a person, it’s much easier to be flirty and charming because, well, there’s no more pressure. You’re not trying to impress the person because you either already know them or have no intention to “get with them” and even if you say the wrong thing, it’s no big deal because there’s nothing on the line for you other than maybe testing out cheesy openers.
How you doin’?
Perhaps the best way to get around this little hurdle is to treat everyone you meet as someone you’re not attracted to and trick yourself into not pressuring yourself for a “result”. Dating is an extremely stressful thing to do and the last thing you need is extra pressure to flirt well on top of it.
And hey, if you can talk, maybe start with that instead of pick up lines. Most people are up for a good conversation so why not just chat away first without thinking about impressing them. Who knows, if you just roll with it, things may end up going your way anyway.