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Bachelor In Paradise Shows The Danger Of Being In A One-Sided Relationship And Not Knowing How To Escape

It's not as simple as 'walking away'.

CONTENT WARNING: THIS ARTICLE CONTAINS SUGGESTION OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE IN RELATIONSHIPS.

Bachelor In Paradise puts humans in an unnatural setting, points cameras at them and manipulates them into creating a story good enough for entertainment. It’s mostly fake.

Every now and then, something very raw and human slips through the cracks and we’re suddenly exposed to a scene or a moment that wasn’t scripted.

This happened on Bachelor In Paradise through contestants, Ivan and Tenille.

Ivan has a very forward personality, but that doesn’t excuse his obsessive behaviour towards Tenille. It’s actually uncomfortable to watch because it’s just far too familiar of a situation.

In the short time that Ivan has known Tenille, he has displayed signs of emotional manipulation towards her including; stalking, obsession and physical intimidation.

All signs of emotional abuse are listed on whiteribbon.org.au. If you are affected by this in any way, please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14

Viewers of Bachelor In Paradise were quick to realise that this behaviour in any kind of relationship is absolutely not on.

For those wondering why Tenille doesn’t just walk away from this relationship, she’s tried. More often than not, emotionally abusive relationships are the hardest to walk away from, not because you want to stay, but because you’re afraid of what will happen if you leave.

It’s a terrifying thing, especially for a woman, to be intimidated into staying in a one-sided relationship.

Bachelor In Paradise needs to be more careful when showing hyper-amplified examples of abusive relationships on TV, without a warning.

I think showing this relationship is important for viewers to understand what it’s like to watch someone go through it, but I can’t help but wonder if (and hope) Tenille is being properly supported through this.

IF YOU ARE AFFECTED BY THIS IN ANY WAY, PLEASE DON’T HESITATE TO CONTACT  1800 RESPECT OR LIFELINE ON 13 11 14

The Bachelor In Paradise Twitter Hashtag Was A Breeding Ground For Biphobic Comments And Enough Is Enough

It's not just an invitation for a threesome.

The comments section is an ugly place sometimes.

Providing people a platform can be really dangerous and damaging when the people speaking aren’t educated on the topics that they’re talking about.

Unfortunately, the comments following Bachelor In Paradise were so offensive and uninformed, I felt inclined to clear some things up.

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Brooke Blurton is the centre of a lot of ‘drama’ on Bachelor In Paradise and it seems to be because of her sexual identity.

As we found out on The Honey Badger’s season of The Bachelor, Brooke identifies as bisexual.

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Bisexuality is romantic attraction, sexual attraction, or sexual behaviour toward both males and females, or to more than one sex or gender.

Bisexuality is not:

  • The inability to choose
  • Being greedy
  • Confused
  • An invitation for a threesome
  • Up for you decide its validity

 

Upon a deep-dive into the garbage fire of the #BachelorInParadiseAU tag on Twitter, I discovered some really tone deaf tweets that needed a good fact check.

Lesbians can have children. Brooke is not a lesbian.

Not confused, and isn’t that hard to understand.

This is the equivalent of ‘who wears the pants’ or ‘who is the man’ in a relationship involving two women.

The answer is: neither of them. They both identify as women and should be categorised as such.

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I understand that this is a far cry from fixing things, and educating ignorant people who simply don’t want to learn, but hey – I tried.

Thank you for coming to class.

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Bachelor In Paradise Just Schooled Us All In How To Be Supportive Of An Ex's New Relationship

You don't have to be salty.

For those of us that have had past relationships, there can sometimes be a weird feeling that you just can’t shake.

What are they up to now?

Do they think about us?

What if…?

You miss them.

Then there’s the other extreme where the sheer sound of their voice makes you so mad that you need to put your AirPods in and go for a walk or you’re going to blow your top.

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Whatever you feel about your ex, there’s someone out there that feels the same. It’s a hard thing to navigate when a person who was a big part of your life is suddenly just someone you knew.

This is true for Bachelor In Paradise‘s Alex Nation And Richie Strahan.

After meeting first on The Bachelor, Richie chose Alex as the winner of his heart and they had a year long relationship of being undeniably in love with each other.

And then they broke up, which reportedly was very messy.

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On a recent episode of Bachelor In Paradise, Richie was talking to Alisha (a bachelorette from The Honey Badger’s season) about a potential new relationship when his ex, Alex walked past and overheard.

At first, Richie’s face thought it would be totally awkward and Twitter went into meltdown thinking it was going to blow up, but then… it never did.

Alex was completely unphased that she was taking to her ex of an entire year, and it was really evident that there were no hard feelings.

I think we can all take a page out of this book and learn to be encouraging and supportive of our ex’s future relationships, because in the end, we’re all people and our time here is far too short to be wasting it holding grudges.

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