Tumblr Banning ‘Adult Content’ And ‘Female Presenting Nipples’ Is Not Only Stupid, It’s Actively Damaging Online Communities
Literally how is alienating all the horny bloggers good for business?
Starting December 17, explicit adult content will no longer be welcome on Tumblr. It is quite possibly the stupidest decision the blogging platform company could make, and it just really sucks.
The amendment to the community guidelines was announced by Tumblr’s CEO Jeff D’Onofrio on Monday in a blog post titled “A better, more positive Tumblr.” His claim is that the company is looking to foster “more constructive dialogue among our community members.”
But these guidelines are sh*t. Sorry, had to say it.
“We’re taking another step by no longer allowing adult content, including explicit sexual content and nudity (with some exceptions),” said D’Onofrio.
‘Adult content’ includes “photos, videos, or GIFs that show real-life human genitals or female-presenting nipples, and any content — including photos, videos, GIFs and illustrations — that depicts sex acts.”
In case you have not had the pleasure of wading into the deeply explicit waters of Tumblr porn, just know that it’s a big part of the platform. And porn as a concept isn’t in itself bad at all – in fact the Tumblr porn community was considered a relatively safe space to explore sexuality. Until now Tumblr was looking like a pretty sex positive social platform.
But now Tumblr is literally alienating a whole chunk of horny users. Not exactly the recipe for success???
The ban on “female-presenting nipples” takes away one of the best things about Tumblr, and now aligns it with the same sexism that plagues Instagram. It’s a step backwards. Female nipples don’t need to be sexual, and they should be allowed to exist online (and anywhere) if we want them to.
There’s also the issue that this ban is damaging heaps of communities that use Tumblr to share empowering content. These rules alienate groups that are sex-positive, queer, artists, and also sex workers, who are already being driven off platforms like Instagram.
What makes things worse, is that Tumblr has a lot of content that needs to be censored, but it’s not this. There are so many blogs and posts that promote hate speech, eating disorders, bigotry, violence, the list goes on. And yet they are coming after the nips, of course.
Finally, the cherry on top of this whole mess is that the censorship process seems thoroughly flawed, and people are having all kinds of posts flagged that don’t even come close to being explicit.
So this really could go down in history as the decision that killed Tumblr. RIP.
Queer Eye’s Karamo Brown Defending Women’s Right To Look Like An Absolute Mess When They Want Shows He Really Gets Us
Karamo thinks we are all beautiful all the time, and we think Karamo is perfect.
The latter is in reference to his response to an irresponsibly judgmental tweet posted by Entertainment Tonight. It features pictures of a very pregnant Carrie Underwood on the red carpet at the CMA Awards, with the caption,
“I love you @etnow but who the hell wrote this tweet… You owe women an apology. You’re shaming pregnant women/ women im general and that’s not okay! Women listen, you are beautiful if you are in sweats or glammed up. And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.”
The expectation that is forced on women to always look put together is exhausting. No one should feel obliged to put in this level of effort into their appearance, and especially not pregnant women.
Attaching the concept of ‘beauty’ exclusively to looking glowed up and classically feminine is outdated, and while we don’t need Karamo Brown to tell us we are all just as beautiful in sweats, it feels pretty damn good.
Karamo makes an effort to empathise with people outside of his own breadth of experience, and he stands up for them when he sees injustice. Shaming women for not looking super put together might seem like a minor injustice, but it feeds into the greater systemic oppression of women, so calling it out is important.
Basically, Karamo Brown is lovely, and he’s the kind of man and role model the world needs more of.
Women Watching Lesbian Porn Is Very Normal, And There’s A Good Reason Why So Many Of Us Do It
Lesbian is the #1 most popular category with women on Pornhub, and it makes total sense.
Solo sexual exploration is like a sweet-ass party that adolescent girls just aren’t invited to. We receive the message that it is just not for us and if you’re doing it, then keep that sh*t under wraps because it just isn’t ladylike.
Things are finally changing, but the stigmatisation of women masturbating has left many of us relatively in the dark on a lot of things.
Like porn. ‘Do women watch porn?’, and ‘what kind of porn do women watch?’ are questions it would have been comforting to know the answers to while growing up. Because if you’re not having open discussions with other women, it’s easy to mistake a healthy appetite for porn and masturbation, for some kind perversion.
But thanks to the insights shared regularly by the world’s most popular porn site, Pornhub, everyone’s freak flags are on display. And women watch porn too! Recognise it. Accept it. Embrace it. In 2017, 26% of PornHub’s worldwide viewers were women. In Australia we were 28%.
And you wanna know what women are watching? According to the data breakdowns, we are watching a whole lot of lesbian porn.
So any women out there who have ever felt confused about preferring to watch lesbian porn to heterosexual porn, rest assured that it’s very normal.
Of course for some people it might be an indication of a genuine sexual orientation, and something worth exploring in real life, but based on these numbers it’s clear that the popularity of lesbian porn transcends the queer audience.
It would be far too easy to argue that the women of the world are all secretly harbouring lesbian tendencies, waiting for the right time to rise up in revolution, overthrowing heterosexuality and rendering the male gender obsolete for good. Though it’s not a terrible idea. (Kidding!)
Really, a lot of the women watching lesbian porn have minimal desire for lesbian sexual interaction outside of the context of their erotic fantasies (just as incest, rape and kidnapping fantasies do not all translate to a real life desire). There are certain appeals of lesbian porn that make it preferable to currently available mainstream hetero-porn, so plenty of women who identify as heterosexual seek it out.
Let’s take a look at why that might be.
#1. Mainstream porn is made for a male viewer.
In most porn videos, the sex is choreographed so that the man’s pleasure is centre stage hogging the spotlight, while stimulation of female arousal gets very little airtime. Meanwhile, in lesbian porn, it’s all girls all the time. With female pleasure as the main event, women’s desires are incidentally catered to over those of the male audience.
Basically if you want to see women getting head and clitoral stimulation, most mainstream heterosexual porn is just not delivering the goods. Women opt for lesbian porn without many other options catering to their wants.
#2. The male presence in porn can be pretty f**king scary.
Women are often put off by the domineering male actor and end up feeling perturbed by the idea that the female actor is potentially in an intimidating environment. The concern can really kill arousal. It tends to feel like a much less threatening situation if it’s only females on screen, although this does not actually guarantee a non-threatening environment on set.
Outside of concern for the actors’ safety, a lot of women are turned off by the visual of an overbearing man dominating the woman in sex, or the age disparity between actors.
Lesbian porn is popular because it is more accessible than the comparatively male-dominated sexism of mainstream heterosexual porn. But it’s important to recognise that unfortunately, most lesbian porn is still saturated by the male gaze and caters to male fantasies. That means that what we see is the inauthentic fetishisation of lesbian sex. We see sex that has been styled, performed and packaged to fulfil the desires of the male audience.
It’s homosexual women who are probably most aware of how inauthentic most mainstream lesbian porn is. This video of actual lesbians reacting to lesbian porn made for men pretty much says it all.
The problem is, there is insufficient porn and erotica that caters to women’s needs because women’s pleasure is still stigmatised. Men are not the only sexual beings and they are not the only audience to consider.
That’s why feminist porn is on the rise, to address the need for change and give a more balanced depiction of sex.
That’s also why in December last year, Pornhub launched a new ‘Popular With Women’ category, which aggregates content catered to women’s specific interests based on our views and preferences. It replaced the ‘Female Friendly’ category, which housed content marketed towards women as opposed to content women have actually enjoyed.
This is the kind of cultural change we need to see, along with a more open and supportive discussion about women’s pleasure.
Though to be clear, breaking down the stigma around female masturbation and erotic fantasy DOES NOT mean asking probing questions or pushing someone to be open about their desires if they’re clearly not comfortable talking about it with you.
You shouldn’t feel like you can’t talk about it, but you also shouldn’t feel like you have to. No one is entitled to know your personal sexual practices and we should respect each other’s boundaries.
Breaking down the stigma is about dispelling the sense of embarrassment and associated perversion that is attached to women’s solo sexual experience. Female masturbation should be part of the greater conversation on sex and progress relies on society embracing women’s right to experience themselves sexually.
Anyway, thanks for staying with me until the end, now go f**k yourselves. 😉