Apparently All Of Us With Tattoos Are Impulsive and Reckless, So Thanks For That, Canadian Researchers

If you got tattoos, you've also got issues!

Canadian economists have surveyed 1104 people with tattoos. The study, published by the Journal of Economic Behavior & Organization, was conducted because the researchers were interested in a paradox: despite the fact it’s been proven inked-up individuals are discriminated against in the workplace, tattoos remain a growing trend.

Tattoos? Who wants ’em anyway?

Oddly enough, the results don’t really tell us anything about why people like getting inked. Rather, the study seems to be geared at psychoanalysing or picking-apart the personalities of tattooed people.

The results: people with tattoos are not good at controlling their impulses.

We have the answer!

Which, to be fair, probably was the case that one time Ryan Gosling tried to tattoo himself.

It’s hard to see how the study tells us anything at all about the ‘rise’ in tatt popularity. Especially considering its biggest takeaway was that people with visible tattoos are more likely to be “shortsighted” and “reckless”, according to The Times.

Apparently the research process involved dishing out a questionnaire to tattooed people about their finances, health and social life.

I mean, I’m no scientist, but when a thing becomes a “trend” shouldn’t external forces be factored in, too?

Me, critically analysing this very critical study.

The more I get to learn about this study, the more I’m imagining it was conducted by someone’s ultra-conservative uncle.

Respondents to the survey were even asked to complete multiple tests specifically designed to measure their impulsivity. Which seems to imply that people get tattoos solely as an impulsive choice. Nevermind aesthetic value.

The Cognitive Reflection Test measured participant’s impulse control. A payment stimulation also determined whether respondents would hesitate to wait longer to receive a large cash payment as opposed to waiting for a shorter amount of time for a decreased amount of money.

The economists did find something though-they found that Australians are “marking milestones, commitments or life-chapters” by getting a tattoo. And to that I say: tell us something we don’t know.

Britney Spears Was Right, The Reason You Suck At Dating Is Because You Love Toxicity

I'm addicted to you don't you know that you're toxic.

A great, big lot of us find ourselves in toxic relationships that take us on an emotional rollercoaster ride.

“They were so toxic” are words we’ve either heard or used to describe an ex. Of course, there are situations where that’s true. Sometimes people are deeply troubled and the only solution is to just get the hell outta there and never look back.

Sometimes you just gotta peace out.

Here’s a hard truth though: sometimes people aren’t what’s toxic, pairings are. In fact, a branch of psychology coined ‘attachment theory’ explains how common, and even natural, it is to choose someone completely wrong for you.

But what usually ensues after a failed relationship is a whole bunch of finger-pointing. This tactic probably won’t help you understand what went so wrong. A failure to delve into the inner workings of the situation may actually leave you vulnerable to remain in a cycle of toxic relationships.

So if you, or a mate, has been in a particularly sh*tty relo it’s best to learn-up about this principle. It’s been researched and proven for decades. But also, keep in mind that your relationship status doesn’t define you, not one bit.

To avoid dating drama, here are three things worth knowing:

1. We All Have An Attachment Style

Neuroscientist, Amir Levine, states that just over 50% of the population have a secure attachment style, 25% are avoidantly attached and 21% have an anxious attachment style.

There’s also a small percentage of people both avoidantly and anxiously attached, this style is known as fearful-avoidant and it’s usually associated with unstable or unsafe upbringing. A person’s attachment mode is developed in childhood and is usually determined by one or both relationships with a caregiver. 

Securely attached individuals often have had a reliable upbringing where their emotional and physical needs are met consistently. Avoidants often haven’t had their needs adequately met. They may have had an emotionally distant parent, for example. Anxiously attached people have had their needs met at times and not met at others. Perhaps their caregiver suffered from hardship and fluctuated between being emotionally present and distant from their kid.

You can determine your attachment style here.

At this point you should be feeling very seen.

2. Your Attachment Style Determines How You Behave In Relationships 

Securely attached individuals are often more ‘flexible’ and less critical than people who are anxiously or avoidantly attached. Generally, they’re much better at communicating their emotions and picking up on their partner’s feelings. Basically, they learnt how to because they had a healthy, well-connected relationship with their caregiver.

Avoidantly attached individuals are often the type to ‘play down’ the importance of relationships. They may be that super “independent” friend or the “heartbreaker” mate who never gets too involved. They’re often not good at discussing their feelings because they weren’t exactly taught how. Often, they’ve learnt to be so autonomous they tend to find their partners “clingy” or too “demanding” of their time, attention of affection.

Anxiously attached individuals are quite the opposite, they find themselves craving deep intimacy in their relationships. They may often worry about their partner’s level of commitment to them. Which is all due to the fact that at some stage during their upbringing, they felt they could not rely on their caregiver to be there for them. They may come across as “clingy” but this behaviour often stems from a wound. 

Realising you are defs one of these.

3. Anxious And Avoidant Styles Gravitate Towards Each Another And Often Create A Toxic Pair

There’s the catch, dear friends. Have you ever been in a relationship so passionate but so horribly unstable? The chances are that one of you was anxiously attached while the other was avoidant. This dynamic creates a push-pull and oftentimes, an on and off again scenario. 

Neither parties may be particularly good at discussing their needs and feelings in a healthy way. Which isn’t to be judged. Both partners may have never seen such behaviour modelled in childhood and therefore never learnt how to do it themselves.

In this pairing, the anxiously attached person often feels unsatisfied and less loved because their partner isn’t very good at all the mushy stuff, AKA showing their feelings. In turn, the avoidant may often find their partner overbearing, too needy or demanding of their time. These styles are often very attracted to each other. Each desires in the other what they unconsciously feel they’re lacking. The anxious see strength and independence and the avoidant sees an emotional side and vulnerability. 

A completely normal reaction to this tea.

Of all people, Britney Spears really summed it up with the lyrics: “I’m addicted to you don’t you know that you’re toxic.” The good thing is, like any addiction, you can break the cycle of toxic relationships. Perhaps you’ve just taken the first step.  

Some Dude Actually Thought It Was Ok To Propose With Nothing But Mustard And White Bread

Boy do we have questions.

An anonymous man has been slammed online for spelling out his marriage proposal in mustard across four slices of white bread.

Yep. Not Ok. Credit: Facebook

According to Daily Mail, the post popped up on a Facebook user’s feed before being shared to a group called ‘That’s it, I’m wedding shaming.’ Safe to say, it’s caused more outrage than Miley Cyrus bagging her relationship with Liam Hemsworth after their split.

We’re not sure what’s worse – the marriage proposal via bread, or being a member of a name and shame group. As we learned more about the saga the answer became horribly clear: the proposal.

The Internet’s collective response to this man
Credit: Giphy

The woman who posted the pic wrote, “That’s it, I’m proposal shaming. A girl on my news feed just shared pictures of her engagement and I’m dying.” We, however, are not dying. We’re just brimming with questions:

“Did the woman like mustard and is this some sort of inside joke?”

“…How old is that bread?”

“What was the recipient’s reaction?”

and finally…

“Did the couple just… throw the bread out afterwards?”

All of these questions are followed up with one beaming thought: “I really hope this is a joke.” 

Unfortunately, the marriage proposal gets overwhelmingly worse when you pay closer attention to the image. Evidently the dude didn’t even bother to pre-plan the size of his writing because he ran out of space to write “you” twice. The bread actually reads: “I love will you marry me.”

It just gets worse
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Surely he could have sacrificed one extra slice for the girl of his dreams.

One wholesome person in the shaming group wrote, “Maybe there’s a cute back story. They met at a hot dog stand that ran out of hot dog buns?”

I’m calling it: that comment is downright naive because if that were true the couple probably would’ve spoken up by now.

The post also attracted another special type of human. The type who needs to be different just for the sake of being different. One woman commented, “‘Honestly this would have worked on me, I love sandwiches.”

Quite frankly, anyone who thinks mustard on bread constitutes a sandwich needs to re-think their standards. Someone even praised the proposal as “creative.” 

Sweetheart, you are so, so wrong
Credit: giphy

I’m not sure how to say this lightly: the Internet needs a reality check. This guy did not think through his proposal at all. He simply reached into the cupboard after finishing a day at work, grabbed a bottle of mustard and whizzed down the words in 1min 30 seconds, tops.

That’s the real tragedy behind this mustard mess. Not only did the person proposing lack the effort to do something special, by posting it online he reveals he was genuinely proud of it too.

The Internet has spoken: he really could’ve mustard up something better.

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