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Gwyneth Paltrow’s Energy Towards Her Exes Proves We Should Do As She Does, Not As She Says

There's some wisdom underneath all that Goop.

It’s no secret that we like dogpiling on Gwyneth Paltrow every now and again. But when she’s not doing and saying things in the name of Goop, there are times where she drops nuggets of wisdom that make us begrudgingly respect her.

Case in point: it turns out Gwyneth Paltrow is a great ex-girlfriend.

No, really.

Chatting to Harper’s Bazaar about all things Goop and whatever Gwynny’s got going on in her life, the topic turned towards her ex-boyfriends like Brad Pitt. While she’s now happily married to American Horror Story co-creator Brad Falchuk, she says she’s still tight with some of her former flames.

“One of them is still one of my best friends—one from high school, Tony Woods.

“And I’m friendly with Brad Pitt. I don’t have any really bad blood.”

But the best little tidbit from Gwyneth’s interview is her gushing over Dakota Johnson, her ex-husband Chris Martin’s new girlfriend.

“I love her. I can see how it would seem weird because it’s sort of unconventional. But I think, in this case, just having passed through it iteratively, I just adore her.

“I always start to think of the ampersand sign—what else can you bring in, instead of being resistant to or being made insecure by? There’s so much juice in leaning in to something like that”.

Coming from a woman who is really into stuff like vaginal steaming (don’t do this) and jade eggs (or this), this attitude from Gwyneth towards her ex-husband’s new girlfriend is actually pretty damn cool. Hell, she even shared a lovely Instagram post about Dakota for her birthday.

Seems like Gywneth is actually onto something about this whole “conscious uncoupling” thing, which she actually talks about in a surprisingly enlightening manner:

“It’s not like there’s a finish line: ‘Oh, we consciously uncoupled; we’re done.’ It’s a lifelong commitment to constantly reinvent your relationship with your ex, which you do presumably because you have children together. I don’t see a reason to do it if you don’t have children together. Some people do.

“But I think we put all the hard work in at the beginning. I would say very rarely is it difficult now. We’ve learned how to communicate with each other. We love each other. We laugh. We have the best of each other. It’s really nice. It makes you feel like you don’t have to lose”.

While the chances of getting healthy advice on approaching relationships from Goop is less than zero, it seems like there’s much more wisdom to be gleaned from Gwyneth herself than the weird stuff she plugs on Goop.

Huh. Who would’ve thought that Gwyneth Paltrow is the ex-girlfriend we all wish we had?

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