You may or may not know who Shay Mitchell is. She’s a Canadian actor, model and, recently, mother.
This is Shay:
It doesn’t really matter if you know who she is or not. What you do need to know, however, is that Shay recently attended Drake’s birthday party. And she looked like she had a damn good time too.
But, because the internet is a special place and people are annoying, Shay was criticised for partying. Why? Because she just had a baby. Apparently, partying after you’ve had a kid is a big no no and makes you a bad parent.
To that, I say, LOL GET STUFFED.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with Shay, or any mother for that matter, enjoying a night out after having a baby. They just brought a human into the world they deserve to kick back and have a good time – they earned that cocktail after months of pain, discomfort and no alcohol.
Who are we or you or anyone to comment on what they should or should not be doing? And how in the world is a woman going out and having an enjoyable night a reflection on her parenting?
I would understand if Shay had been out constantly, if she was neglecting her new Bub, if she had taken her baby girl into the club with her – they are all examples of questionable parenting. But wanting and taking a night off is not a sin.
Sadly, this is only the tip of the iceberg of crap that gets hurled at women.
We’re bad mothers for going out without our children, but there’s (apparently) something wrong with us if we don’t want children at all. We’re not maternal, not caring, we don’t fit into the stereotypical role of ‘mother’ as society expects.
And it’s not just mums – singles cop it too. Don’t have a partner? You’re sad, lonely, struggling. Never-mind the majority of people who are single by choice/really don’t want a partner or couldn’t care less.
Also, what’s this about?
I guarantee you every woman is familiar with the struggle of trying to conceal their, ah, sanitary items on their way to the bathroom during their monthly crimson curse. The issue isn’t that we try to hide our pads, the issue is that we feel the need to hide them in the first place.
We are the victims of an overbearing patriarchal society. The worst part is that women are as much the victims as they are the perpetrators, in some cases. We’re the ones who enforce patriarchal views and stereotypes on each other.
The people commenting on Shay’s photo criticising her parenting? Women.
The people who give you weird looks at dinner parties when you confidently announce that you don’t know if you want to get married? Your mother, grandmother, aunt, cousin – all women.
You know what they call that?
