R U OK Co-Founder Shares His Suicide Note To Help Start Convo About Mental Health

2019 marks the 11th edition of R U OK Day.

NOTE: This R U OK article contains discussion of mental health and suicide 

2019 is the 10-year anniversary of when the R U OK? organisation started with the aim of providing suicide prevention resources to Australians. To raise awareness for this year’s R U OK Day, co-founder Graeme Cowan has shared his suicide note in an attempt to start a broader conversation about mental health.

Taking to Facebook, Cowan shared the note, which is dated July 24, 2004. On that day, the R U OK? co-founder’s family found him unconscious after a suicide attempt and were able to call for help and save his life.

Here’s what the note reads:

My dear family,

After four long years of battling this illness I just can’t take it anymore. I feel I have tried everything and just can’t see anything but a depressed future.

I would like to thank everyone for the love and care you have all shown me. I couldn’t ask for anything more.

Please don’t blame yourselves in any possible way for this as there is nothing possibly that you could have done.

Love always,


P.S. I just can’t be a burden any longer.

Since posting the note, Cowan has been inundated with thousands of supportive messages, comments and people sharing their own stories.

In response to all the comments (via ABC News), Cowan says he’s “amazed” and hopes his note will shine a light on the importance of talking about mental health.

“I’ve had so many comments, and from people of the world, just saying that this is a really, really important discussion.

“Because people are all touched by it. It might not be specifically suicide, but it’s definitely depression or anxiety or post-traumatic stress.”

Talking about Australia’s suicide rate – it sits at 12.9 per 100,000 and is far more prevalent among men than women – Cowan also hopes his note and R U OK? will break the “burden” mentality by encouraging people to share how they’re feeling, especially men.

As for advice for those trying to support people with depression, Cowan says that “just being there and showing care and following up and thinking about how they can support” is huge and encouraging them to “keep trying things” to help with their problems.

If you need to talk to someone, please call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636.

Apple's New iPhone 11 Design Will Make You Intensely Sick, Literally

The iPhone 21 is going to be a full-blown health hazard at this rate.

The iPhone team over at Apple have always been all about making their devices look slick AF. Well something must’ve been in their pumpkin spice lattes when they were coming up with the design for the 2019 range of phones because it seems like they were designed solely to trigger people’s trypophobia.

For those who don’t know what trypophobia is, it’s the visceral aversion to clusters or irregular patterns of little holes or bumps. If you’re not sure if this affects you, just look at some lotus seedheads and you’ll know.


Anyway, here’s the lowdown.

Apple has unveiled the iPhone 11, iPhone Pro and iPhone Pro Max and while the new devices boast some impressive specs (and hefty price tags), all eyes are on the Pro and Pro Max’s cameras.

All three of them.

We get that cameras are the new battle frontier for smartphones and Apple’s new iPhones will be nothing less than a photographer’s wet dream.

But did they have to have three cameras positioned like that? Couldn’t they have just made it into one big camera or something and spare all those who suffer from trypophobia the anguish of looking at it?

Unsurprisingly, the new iPhone started triggering people’s trypophobia and causing people at the Apple event to have a rougher time than expected.

The next 12 months is going to be a rough time for some Apple users. Not only will they have to make sure their phone is face up at all times, they’re going to be extra careful in public because of all the iPhone 11 users who are out and about taking photos.

If this is the new design path Apple is taking with its devices, the iPhone 21 is going to be a full blown health hazard at this rate.

The App You're Using For Uni Meetups Might Be Costing You Your Privacy

But hey, some personal info is a pretty small price to pay to keep things organised!

Running an Aussie uni club or society can be a logistical nightmare and that’s where apps like Get come in handy for keeping track of members and their deets. Now that’s a lot of personal info stored in one place and it would be awful if it were hacked or if a vulnerability was discovered.

Well that’s exactly what happened.

A Reddit user posted on the UNSW subreddit and revealed that they were able to get unauthorised access to the personal info – name, email, DOBs, Facebook IDs and phone numbers – of Get’s users using the app’s search function API.

Worryingly, the user said they were access the data without using any tokens (used to provide legitimate access to the app) meaning anyone could get their hands on the data.

All in all, an estimated 50,000 Aussie uni students may have had their data exposed due to this vulnerability, which represents about one-third of the platform’s 159k user base. Yikes.

The Guardian reports that the Reddit user tried to reach out to Get “around six times” over the weekend they discovered the app’s security flaw but were met with a “non-response.”

While Get hasn’t reached out to the Reddit user, it has posted an update on its website stating that changes were made to prevent unauthorised access to the service and it is investigating the reported security flaws. Get has also said it’s been in contact with any affected Aussie uni clubs and societies that may have been impacted by the vulnerability.

This security flaw isn’t the first time Get has found itself in hot water due to issues related to data breaches and the like.

Back in 2018 – when Get was originally known as Qnect – members of Aussie uni societies and clubs using the service were reportedly threatened with the release of their personal info by a hacking group unless the company paid them a ransom in Bitcoin.

Get states that its platform is safe to use after addressing the discovered vulnerability. Having said that, best start proofing your personal info just to be doubly sure or you might find yourself at the pointy end of an extortion attempt from some dudes who have a hankering for Bitcoin.

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