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Today In Problematic Kevin Hart: Gaslighting Our Country Prince Lil Nas X's Sexuality

Seems like he's learned nothing from the Oscar fiasco.

Another week, another moment where Kevin Hart’s mouth has gotten him into trouble. Both he and Lil Nas X appeared on HBO’s unscripted talk show, The Shop: Uninterrupted, and the conversation turned towards the rapper’s sexuality and his decision to come out as gay while at the top of the world.

But before Nas X could reply, Kevin chimed in with, “He said he was gay, so what?” As the rapper explains how he grew up to “hate this s**t,” Kevin interrupts again by asking “Hate what?”

As Nas X says “Homosexuality. Gay people,” Kevin responds with “Why?”

Hoo boy. You really Kevin Hart-ed it there, champ.

With the patience of a saint, Nas X explains the situation as clear cut as possible so even someone like Kevin Hart could “get it.”

“Come on now. If you’re really from the hood you know. You know it’s not some—it’s like, for me, the ‘cool dude with the song’ on top of everything to say this… any other time, I’m doing this for attention… if you’re doing it at the top, then you know it’s for real. And it’s showing that it doesn’t matter, I guess.”

Credit to Lil Nas X for his unfazed response because he didn’t deserve to be put in a situation where he had to defend his decision to come out. His explanation was a masterclass on gaslighting and how LGBTQI people deal with this sort of problem all the time.

You’d think Kevin would’ve learned something about how homophobia after his Oscar host fiasco but that’s giving him way too much credit. More than that, this exchange is a snapshot of a big problem LGBTQI people face when it comes to revealing their sexuality.

While Kevin’s response to Lil Nas X’s explanation wasn’t homophobic per se, it was a form dismissive gaslighting of the problem. Instead of tackling the issue head on, he tried to reframe the conversation as unimportant and non-existent, thus wiping his hands of all fault and normalising the idea that this issue was always accepted.

It’s a dangerous rhetoric that people like Kevin employ as a way to justify their own ignorance on something.

And on a final note, screw those athletes and celebrities who put Lil Nas X on the spot. Not only did they learn nothing about gaslighting or the LGBTQI community after the conversation but the subsequent flex to praising Kevin for picking himself up after his failures is just gross.

The way forward from an LGBTQI problem like this is to listen, empathise and understand. But as this whole Kevin Hart/Lil Nas X shows, it’s hard for that to happen when the guy you’re explaining yourself is not only refusing to learn from their past mistakes on the issue but they’re actively interrupting you all the damn time.

Married At First Sight Shows There’s More To Learn About Consent

"Take your bra off! Let it hang!"

Amanda and Tash have had a really hard time connecting with each other. We could’ve put it down to Amanda’s fiery personality or Tash’s dating history, but the first commitment ceremony was full of red flags.

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In the commitment ceremony, there was one particular interaction that had us shocked and it’s when Amanda said: “If it were up to me, we probably would have slept together by now.”

Now, we all know that consent requires everyone involved in the situation to give an enthusiastic ‘yes’, and Tash hasn’t given any indication that she wants to be that intimate with Amanda. In fact, it was the opposite. 

Tash actually described in detail how her feelings evolved from initial attraction to lack thereof, saying: “I was acting a certain way at the wedding and now my body language changed and she’s really intuitive and I knew she could pick it up. I wish I felt burning, strong, firey chemistry, I wish I did, but I’m not going to bullshit it.”

And Amanda knew this, but it didn’t stop Tash from blaming herself for the whole saga. She said: “I hurt her, but I was honest. I feel like I ruined the honeymoon, really, and it was pretty hard to recover from it and it drove a big wedge between us.”

Also, it didn’t help that Amanda cornered her wife, in front of 21 other people, outlining her lack of intimacy in their relationship, saying: “Quality time for me is watching a movie together… We didn’t watch a single movie together…  I’m talking away from the public… I’m talking in the room, with no one around, like your walls down, our PJ’s are on and we’re just our complete selves, our bras are literally off, and we’re enjoying each other’s company… Take your bra off! Let it hang! Do you know what I mean?” 

So, essentially we have a situation with an abundance of issues. Tash feels like she’s in the wrong because she isn’t feeling the same feelings as her partner and Amanda feels the need to vocalise what she would have done if she was “calling the shots.” Newsflash, it’s not “calling the shots” if one member of the relationship is not up for the intimacy. 

So unless Tash changes her mind, falls in love with Amanda and begin in something more than a friendship, the bras stay on.

If you haven’t done your MAFS homework, make sure you catch up on previous lessons. So far, we’ve learnt about gaslighting, why adults still need supervision, to never force chemistry, to not make a fool of yourself when there are cameras aroundhow to meet people in a socially acceptable way and also how crappy friends can ruin a relationship.

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Joey From ‘10 Things I Hate About You’ Is A Cult Leader IRL And I Can’t Cope

I guess the tube sock ad didn't work out.

Remember Joey Donner from everyone’s favourite 90s flick 10 Things I Hate About You? He was the OG f*ckboy and every parent’s worst nightmare – but in real life, he’s apparently a cult leader who got done for illegally selling kombucha.

According to Marie Claire, Andrew Keegan – who played Joey in the film –  is the co-founder of “California spiritual community” Full Circle, where he “passionately seeks to inspire and empower the community to co-create a better world.”

Apparently, in his role Keegan is often referred to as a “guru” and “promotes organic experiences within the temple, including hand-holding, group meditation, spooning, crystals, candles and ‘soul medicine.’” Full Circle even has a pet parrot called Krishna, reflecting the religion’s Hindu influence.

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In a 2014 article, Vice characterised Full Circle as a “new religion,” however publications including Jezebel have labelled it a cult. In a 2015 interview with Keegan, Lauren Bans of New York Magazine wrote, “the actual theology of the group is tough to in down, but it seems to loosely follow Hinduism – or at least Russell Brand’s Sanskrit-tattoo version of it.”

If all this hadn’t blown your mind enough, in 2015, Keegan was reportedly raided by California’s Department of Alcohol Beverage Control for “illegally selling Kombucha that wasn’t labelled alcoholic.”

“Kombucha is something we’d never imagine to be an illegal substance, and it’s frustrating the system has that perspective,” Keegan said. “We’re certainly taking full responsibility. We try to put our best foot forward.”

According to Vice, Keegan’s “spiritual transformation” came from a traumatic experience in 2011 when he and two friends were attacked by gang members in Venice Beach. “The significance of this occurrence is that it happened at the same time the tsunami hit Japan,” he said, relating the incident to a series of events and “weird coincidences.”

Sounds like Keegan’s current life is a far cry from his days as semi-professional tube sock model Joey Donner, but whatever floats your boat, right?

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