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If You're Single, You're Likely Spending More Money Than You Think

Your wallet hates you for being single than you do.

For all the gripes some may have about being single, there are some pros to not being tied down.

You have more time to yourself, you’re not beholden to anyone when figuring out what to do in your spare time, and you can eat whatever you want without going through the dreaded hour-long dance of figuring out what you feel like having.

But if there’s any motivation to take yourself off the market, it’s perhaps this little sobering fact: being single is probably costing you more money.

Then stop being single.

When you’ve got a partner, you’re probably content with staying in more often than not. But if you’re flying single, you’re having to go on more dates to find that special someone, which means having to spend more dosh on drinks, food, and entertainment. Even when you’re not on a date, you’re probably eating or drinking away those single blues anyway.

Then there’s all the prep work you’ve got to put in before even going on a date. Gym memberships, clothes shopping, hair and make-up, and health insurance (for when you injure yourself at the gym) all cost moolah. Health insurance in particular costs considerably more for singles than couples for some inexplicable reason.

But hey, that’s the price you pay (literally) in order to look and feel good.

The price of being single extends beyond all the dating related stuff. You’re likely paying more to rent a place as a single person compared to couples, who can just split the bill in half. Plus you’ll have to throw in things like finding roommates and a place that’s the ideal cost-to-distance ratio to suit your budget just to add extra stress to the whole being single thing.

It’s not just rent either as couples can just split their bills down the middle wheres singles have to bear the brunt of everything on their own.

As for buying a house, well if the chances of doing that are low when you’re a couple, they’re even lower when you’re going at it alone.

So for the sake of your bank balance, best go polish up that dating profile and find that special someone, companionship and happiness be damned.

The Way Websites Manipulate You Into Buying Stuff You Don't Want Is Chilling

One minute you're online window shopping, the next you're hundreds out of pocket after buying ethical homewares.

Let me throw a scenario in your direction, you’ve finished watching Good Omens and need to pass the time somehow so you decide to check out a bunch of online retailers. It’s all just internet window shopping though because you’ve blown all your money on beer and you’re adamant that you won’t buy anything you don’t need.

But the next thing you know, you’ve spent money you don’t have because you just had to buy some ethical homewares and Toy Story 4 merch, all of which cost far more than advertised.

If that’s been the case then you’ve been a victim of some subtle, creepy manipulation that tricks you into buying stuff and you probably didn’t even notice.

These little manipulative tricks are called “dark patterns” and are sneaky online versions of classic techniques used to influence consumer behaviour, such as putting impulse purchases near the cash registers.

While no one is sure how prevalent dark patterns are, a study from Princeton University analysed over 10,000 websites using software and found that over 1,200 used some variation of these dark patterns to ensnare customers.

Some dark patterns are pretty obvious, others are pretty impressive at how well they can hook people in, and some are just pure evil. Examples include:

  • Sneaking products into a customer’s shopping cart without their consent or preselecting more expensive versions of a product
  • Hidden costs and subscriptions
  • Imposing deadlines on deals and sales
  • Misdirection and manipulative language, such as “confirmshaming”, having opt-out options greyed out, and trick questions
  • Fake testimonials or activity messages such as “*insert name* just saved 15% on her order!”
  • Low stock messages
  • Making it annoyingly difficult to cancel a subscription or order
  • Forcing customers to create accounts or share info just to do what they set out to do
So messed up.

While you’re always going to have a target on your back whenever you shop online, it’s pretty chilling to know just how far certain sites will go just to get you to hit that “place order” button on stuff you don’t really need or even want.

So keep on your guard next time you’re shopping online or you’ll end up buying weird backwards bikinis when all you wanted was some ideas on what to get for lunch.

500 Days Of Summer Perfectly Showed The Problem With Nice Guys 10 Years Ago And We Still Haven't Learned A Thing

If anything it seems like men have regressed.

2009 was something of a banner year for cinema. We got an indulgent yet entertaining WWII flick from Quentin Tarantino and there was James Cameron’s awful blue people CGI-fest that remains the highest earning movie of all time (for now).

But the film that stood the test of time better than anything else that year is perhaps Joseph Gordon-Levitt and Zooey Deschanel’s subversive romcom, 500 Days of Summer.

That’s because the film perfectly showed the whole “nice guy” problem we see in the dating world and that depiction remains more relevant than ever today.

Here we have exhibit A: Textbook nice guy.

500 Days of Summer tells the story of Tom (Gordon-Levitt) and Summer’s (Deschanel) relationship from Tom’s perspective. What starts off as a pretty cute romcom soon unfolds itself as a critque on how guys get the wrong idea about relationships despite all the clear signs and how men can and need to be better.

Despite being told by Summer that she isn’t looking for a relationship, Tom still pursues her and gets obsessively attached to her. He projects all these fantasies onto her and basically thinks she’s the Manic Pixie Dream Girl who will give his life meaning. It’s pretty pathetic and at times creepy.

Once they break up, he sinks into a deep depression and the truly ugly parts begin to overflow. When he’s not being a sullen mess, he’s whinging about why Summer wouldn’t date him despite being such a “nice guy” and basically being all entitled about the whole thing.

Tom is basically the personification of the “nice guy” problem in a nutshell: He gets unhealthily attached to a woman he likes and then gets angry when she rejects him. The character certainly isn’t someone men should look up to in their pursuit of romance, something that Gordon-Levitt wholeheartedly agrees with.

If there’s anything to be learned from the film, it’s don’t be like Tom and fall in love with the idea of a person.

Focus on the stuff on the right hand side and ignore the left.

While Tom ultimately grows and learns from his “nice guy” phase with Autumn, the same can’t be said about real life. If anything, it seems like men have taken all the wrong lessons from 500 Days of Summer and regressed in the decade since the film’s release.

When women are feeling scared for their life while doing regular things like catching an Uber or walking home at night, we’re doing something incredibly wrong. Be better, men.

500 Days of Summer was and still is a perfect example of why the “nice guy” mentality is awful and the lessons taught by that film remain more relevant now than they were 10 years ago. Be the version of Tom who grows up in the end and not the version who obsessively pines over someone to the point where it goes all pear-shaped.

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