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If You're Checking Out A List On Where To Randomly Approach Women, You're A Jerk

Anyone wondering why women worry about dudes in public, here's your Exhibit A.

It’s been a while since we’ve heard of Daryush Valizadeh, better known as self-proclaimed pickup artist Roosh V, the 39-year-old master of seduction who lives with his mum and leader the Return Of Kings male supremacy organisation.

But a newly-circulating guide on where to randomly approach women in Melbourne has brought him and his deeply vile outlook back into the public eye. Yay?

We’re choosing not to link to it, because you’re not a monster.

It’s worth noting that this particular thread comes from 2017-18, but it’s doing the rounds for anyone interested in how to hunt down women in public, as though they’re sexual Pokemon to be collected.

And a document where men share tips about locations to approach women takes a particularly sinister edge coming as it does after several high-profile murders of women in Melbourne.

For every person that argues that “toxic masculinity” isn’t the problem because *they personally* haven’t murdered anyone hashtag not all men,  here’s a cool insight into how a number of men view women: angry that they won’t dispense sex when expected, discussing strategies to get them alone, talking about the action to which they’re entitled. It’s abhorrent – and also pathetic.

Oh, and there’s a hell of a lot of racism packed in there too just in case you need more reason to think that maybe, just maybe, these aren’t Nice Guys Just Having A Bit Of Fun after all.

Interestingly enough ol’ Rooshy himself has recently embraced hardcore conservative Christianity although his now strident criticisms of premarital sex and provocative behaviour remain exclusively directed at women. What’s more, he continues to sell his pick-up manuals and, as this demonstrates, host forums on how to hunt women.

So that’s a thing.

Anyway, let’s say – again – something which should be self-evident but which society has failed to teach men:

Don’t bother women who are going about their business in Melbourne, and also everywhere else in the world. 

And if you’re responding to this with the fury of someone who thinks that women owe you attention and sexual access whenever you want it, maybe take a moment to punch yourself in the crotch.

Seriously, dudes. Be better.

Gillette's New Ad Starring A Trans Man Is Not For Diversity Points, It's Good Business

Hey, maybe this inclusivity thing will catch on!

Earlier this year Gillette decided to bring down the very foundations of civilised society – or, to put it another way, made an ad for their company.

The ad in question – ‘The Best Men Can Be’ – basically said to their predominantly male user base “hey, think of the example you set”.

And oh! the outcry! And oh! the promises from people that they would never ever ever ever buy a Gillette product again because suggesting that men be more responsible for and thoughtful about their actions is downright misandrist, for some reason.

And obviously Gillette were punished for their activist stance on whether men should be dicks or not by… um, absolutely no drop in sales in the aftermath.

And so now we come to their new advertisement:

The new video, featuring Canadian trans man Samson Bonkeabantu Brown, is similarly moving and poignant, showing a proud dad teaching his son to shave for the first time.

It’s something which cis men can easily relate to: learning to shave is a big deal as a teenager, and the anxiety about starting to develop facial hair too early or too late is very real. And for many of us it was a big deal when our dad showed us how it was done.

So watching this young man, whose transition has now reached the point where he’s growing facial hair, going through this rite of passage is another powerful reminder of just how similar people are.

And needless to say, there’s no shortage of reaction online demonstrating the sort of carefully reasoned, fact-based and well-expressed commentary which is the hallmark of frothing bigots on the internet.

However, this is all fine from the company’s perspective, because that’s how publicity works.

The angry Reddit community who (unsuccessfully) set out to make the previous ad the most disliked in history? That gave massive engagement numbers, which drove video shares and media attention.

In fact, all the evidence suggests that taking a firm stance on what masculinity means in 2019 has done nothing but help Gillette and set them apart from their competitors.

In fact, despite predictions, the follow up research showed that the ad was a hit – especially with women, who are far more engaged with the shaving (ahem) “conversation”. Short version of long data: men didn’t change their brand behaviour, even if they were supposedly furious about the virtue signalling, but women did.

So this new, inclusive, trans-visibility-enhancing ad might be genuinely admirable, but it’s also just smart business. It’s win-win!

Except for online bigots, but… actually, that seems like a bonus win.

Moby And Natalie Portman's Non-Relationship Is Uncomfortable But Not Unfamiliar

Hot tip: if the person you used to date didn't think you were dating, you weren't dating them.

Moby has just released the second volume in his autobiographical series and has attracted much interest with the hitherto-unknown tales of his short-lived relationship with Natalie Portman, back when she was 20 and he was 33. They went to parties, they kissed under oak trees, but after a few weeks she distanced herself and the great love story was not to be.

And this tale of celebrity love came as a bit of a surprise to everyone, including Natalie Portman.

She wasn’t aware that she was in a relationship with Richard Hall. She does, however, remember a musician in his thirties creeping on her when she was just 18, though.

“I was surprised to hear that he characterised the very short time that I knew him as dating because my recollection is a much older man being creepy with me when I just had graduated high school,” she told Harper’s Bazaar. “He was on tour and I was working, shooting a film, so we only hung out a handful of times before I realised that this was an older man who was interested in me in a way that felt inappropriate.”

Let’s face it, she’s no stranger to sex pests.

And Lordy, this isn’t uncommon with older men looking to up their stats regarding their sexual awesomeness. In fact, it isn’t even uncommon in the book – Lizzy Grant, aka Lana Del Rey, also refutes Moby’s claim that they dated.

Moby took this well. Sorry, I mean he decided to tell her that no, she was the one who was mistaken – about a great many things.

Oh, where to start?

Seeing Moby boasting – even in a self-deprecating way – about how dope he was about pulling gorgeous young women, especially young artists who would have been flattered by the attention of an established figure like himself – reeks of hideous insecurity mixed with a toxic entitlement.

But most of all, who the hell tells someone that they’re wrong about whether or not you were in a relationship?

Especially when everyone’s going to look at the debate and go “say, who has more cause to buillshit in this situation – the fading musician boasting about pulling young hotties, or the established actor who was barely an adult at the time?”

Apologise and move on, dude. Seems like you’ve already creeped her out plenty.

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