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Even 40,000ft Off The Ground, Bros Find A Way To Be Utterly Creepy To Women

Pigs on a plane.

In particularly disappointing news this Wednesday, October 9th, it’s been reported that sleazy men continue to meet to the standard they’ve set for themselves, I’m afraid.

This time, the gross behaviour has gone down a few minutes into an international flight. As opposed to the standard setting of a bar, an office, the street, on public transport (etc, etc).

As CNN has reported, 24-year-old Jessica Van Meir was travelling between London and Washington DC over the weekend when a group of passengers decided to harass her via the in-flight messaging system.

Van Meir left her seat to head to the bathroom and when she returned, saw a wave of messages fill her screen.

The comments are said to have come from passengers sitting in the row behind Van Meir. They referred to her as “tidy babe” and said things like “welcome to hell” and “you are now in the danger zone”.

The usernames of the men behind the messages included “big d*ck swinger” and “dirty mike”.

Van Meir told the passengers that she was an employee at a “law firm that specializes in online sexual harassment” and proceeded to inform them she would be reporting them to Virgin (the airline she was flying with).

The paralegal, who was travelling for business, informed flight attendants of the behaviour of the men behind her. Staff then proceeded to intervene quickly, speaking with the harassers. The messaging is said to have stopped after this.

Chatting with CNN, Van Meir shared that she was “appalled and disappointed that someone would be so disrespectful and entitled as to send me messages on a flight when I’m traveling on my own just trying to enjoy my flight peacefully and not be harassed by anyone.”

But sadly, this is not an uncommon occurrence in the world of women. Men like the ones on this flight feel it’s their right to insert themselves into spaces in which they’re not welcome.  

They don’t think about whether or not the person on the other end of the interaction is enjoying themselves.

They don’t care that they’re causing discomfort or even fear.

They just act however they damn please, and believe they’re permitted to because their warped sense of entitlement tells them so.

Which is how we end up with a figure like 85 per cent of Australian women stating they’ve been sexually harassed at some point in their lives (according to a 2018 study by the Human Rights Commission).

“I would hope that other people who face this kind of harassment can feel confident in reporting it and feeling they are not alone and not at fault,” Van Meir continued in her comments to CNN.

In the wake of the incident, Virgin has also issued a statement:

“We want all of our customers to have the best possible experience when they fly with us, and have zero tolerance for any disruptive or inappropriate behaviour. We’re grateful to our cabin crew who supported our customer following this incident and would like to apologise for the distress caused.”

The company has said they’re reviewing their entertainment system to avoid a repeat of this situation. But we’re hoping we can just expect people to figure out that it’s not okay to intimidate anyone with inappropriate behaviour, ever.

Scientists Complete A Study On What Turns Women On Because Apparently, It's Confusing To People

Here's the most important part of it all.

This month on the Internet reports emerged that scientists had completed a new study on sexual arousal and the perceived differences in this area for men and women.

As The Guardian shares, the research specifically looked into the theory that men are more inclined to watch porn because they’re more stimulated by the “visual” than women are.

For the study, which was completed at the Max Planck Institute for Biological Cybernetics in Germany, “erotic visual stimuli” were presented to men and women of assorted sexual orientation. The brain activity of these people was then measured.

And by George!, the results found that women are just as likely to be turned on by sexual imagery (or porn) as men are.

The results are in, folks.
Image: HBO

The paper states:

“Following a thorough statistical review of all significant neuroimaging studies, we offer strong quantitative evidence that the neuronal response to visual sexual stimuli, contrary to the widely accepted view, is independent of biological sex.”

In a nutshell: the belief women are less attracted to the visual is a bunch of hooey.

“At least at the level of neural activity … the brains of men and women respond the same way to porn,” said Hamid Noori, co-author of the research – as shared by The Guardian.

Importantly, however, Noori went on to point out that this seemingly misunderstood ‘difference’ between women and men doesn’t come down to a lack of interest in the visual on the part of women.

It’s much more likely linked to shame.

“Female sexuality has quite a lot of stigma around it,” he said.

“Maybe the main reason is that for the woman there are secondary inhibitory effects that keep them away from expressing what they really feel.”

In other words, if women are not seeking out porn it could also be because they feel less free to do so without judgement.

That, and the fact that historically, much of the content out there hasn’t really been designed for the female experience – although, that is shifting.

His comments highlight just how important studies like this are. If in 2019 we need a paper to point out that women are equally as turned on by erotic imagery as men are, it’s clear there’s a way to go in regard to how we see the sexuality of women.

A Porn Site Has Revealed The ‘Perfect Woman’ Based On Users’ Requests, Who Clearly Never Got Over Weird Science

Want to hear the worst part of it all?

It has been 34 years since Weird Science hit screens and yet, it seems some people are still obsessed with the concept of being able to design their ideal lady.  

As insulting and even dehumanising as the whole thing sounds, that is exactly what a bunch of porn fans have gone and done.  

Why deal with a real woman when you can just build your own?
Image credit: Universal Pictures

According to reports from Cosmopolitan, a porn site has revealed what the “perfect” woman looks like, based on survey results received from some 50,000 users.

While we don’t have a breakdown of the exact demographics, the data is said to have come from men, women, and nonbinary folk from 150 different countries… and the results are hardly surprising.

I hope you can hear my eyes rolling as you read this, but the responses indicated that the “ideal” woman is a 25-year-old Eurasian woman named Shy Yume.

Shy is said to be five-foot-five with long, straight dark-brunette hair. She has blue eyes; D-cup boobs and an “’average’ waist and butt” (whatever the hell that means).

Want to hear more?

Great.

Based on users’ responses, Shy has also been revealed to be bisexual and not a feminist.

Cool. Great. Lovely.
Image credit: NBC

Now, as Cosmo has aptly shared, there are many problems with this whole stunt.

A lot of the results read as fetishistic (voting on race and sexuality feels very gross), and the idea of a woman being designed purely for intention of pleasing those attracted to her makes me cringe so hard that it’s causing my organs to shut down.

But beyond that, it shares damaging messaging to every woman who doesn’t fit the profile.

Some may brush it off as just a playful tool that allowed horny peeps to voice their preferences. But in creating Shy, the impossible standards women are held to are just reinforced.

An equally disturbing result – if you ask this writer – was the fact that 60 per cent of survey participants said they did *not* want their perfect gal to be a feminist.

Can we talk about this for a second?

Over half of these people stated that their dream woman would not be keen on equal rights for women. I’m aware that this went down on a porn site and not the New York Times, but I think it’s truly time that we corrected the messed up perception that feminism is anything beyond “the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes”.

That was Merriam-Webster’s definition, by the way.

The fact that this result came in with such high numbers expresses to me that the word ‘feminist’ needs some seriously good PR right now. And I truly hope that’s what we’re looking at; a case of mixed wires. Because if not, if the people who gave feminism a big red cross actually see the term for what it truly is, then that means 60 per cent of these people view women supporting equality as explicitly undesirable.

That’s a far more terrifying alternative.

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