So Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan Tatum have split. It’s kind of sad because Step Up was the only reason I embarrassingly threw myself into a hopeful hip-hop dancing career at the ripe and vulnerable age of thirteen. But, why are we all losing our cool and posting emotional messages mourning the ‘death’ of their love?
This is because our generation of ours has completely lost the real and true concept of ‘love’. These days, Tinder uses up most of our battery life and the majority of people standing next to you at any given moment have been cheated on.
We’ve tarnished the concept so much that we just plain avoid the feeling. Love has become too hard, too hurtful and too messy.
As soon as we catch wind of a celebrity break up, you start to hear the saying, ‘well if they can’t make it work, we’ve got no chance.’ Just another excuse I say. Our generation is just lazy by nature.
Anything that takes a little longer than a text, ruins your Saturday night plans or leads you to lose an hour of sleep seems to not be worth the effort. Well love takes a whole lot of that and more to work. It takes real effort, and that scares most of us because we don’t put much of that into anything anymore.
Maybe Channing and Jenna did get a little too busy for their relationship, I mean being that good looking 24/7 is a hard job. But, it’s no excuse for letting love fail. If you put the time and energy into it, you’d be surprised at just how happy in love you can be.
The definition of love is, ‘an intense feeling of deep affection’. Not just affection, but DEEP affection. Not just ‘I like red wine’ but, ‘I LOVE red wine’. Where was I going with this… If we’re not even open to admitting our love for someone, then how far is that love ever going to go?
Serious about the red wine though.
We spend a good week formulating opening lines on dating apps, yet we’re too afraid to admit that we’re falling in love with someone six months into a relationship. Channing and Jenna were so open with their adoration for each other that their split was taken as a confirmation to NOT be like that. But if they weren’t like that, then would they have ever even gotten together in the first place?
Just because people can fall in love and then fall out of it, doesn’t mean you should be afraid of the first part. Express how you feel and stop playing the game with everyone else around you. Love is some serious business and requires you to make some pretty intense verbal contracts. If you’re too scared to, then when will you ever stop preaching Beyoncé’s ‘Single Ladies’?
Lastly, it’s time we stop associating love with drama. The minute news broke of the Tatum split we were looking for the juicy reasons why. We’re obsessed! Who cheated on who, who’s fault was it and who’s walking away with more money.
Or dancing away in this case
Did we ever think, maybe they just broke up and there isn’t a major story behind it? Relationships don’t always have to involve drama. Whether during or after, we’re all adults and we can all act and communicate in a mature way. When we don’t, is when love starts to get messy and full on. And when that happens, we start to see the breakdown of our relationship.
Don’t probe for a reason to post a series of cryptic quotes on Instagram about the fight you just had. Leave the outside world out of it and you’ll have a fighting chance of falling into the right kind of love.
So, before you post a series of dedication pictures of the happy times between George and Amal Clooney in light of their recent split, just think about the above.
The concept of love in the 21st century seems to be a little twisted and torn, but hope hasn’t faded. We just have to re-group and go back to the love our Nan and Pop have. Simple, yet spectacular.
Ps. George and Amal are fine. You can stop panicking…