500 Days Of Summer Perfectly Showed The Problem With Nice Guys 10 Years Ago And We Still Haven't Learned A Thing

If anything it seems like men have regressed.

2009 was something of a banner year for cinema. We got an indulgent yet entertaining WWII flick from Quentin Tarantino and there was James Cameron’s awful blue people CGI-fest that remains the highest earning movie of all time (for now).

But the film that stood the test of time better than anything else that year is perhaps Joseph Gordon-Levitt and Zooey Deschanel’s subversive romcom, 500 Days of Summer.

That’s because the film perfectly showed the whole “nice guy” problem we see in the dating world and that depiction remains more relevant than ever today.

Here we have exhibit A: Textbook nice guy.

500 Days of Summer tells the story of Tom (Gordon-Levitt) and Summer’s (Deschanel) relationship from Tom’s perspective. What starts off as a pretty cute romcom soon unfolds itself as a critque on how guys get the wrong idea about relationships despite all the clear signs and how men can and need to be better.

Despite being told by Summer that she isn’t looking for a relationship, Tom still pursues her and gets obsessively attached to her. He projects all these fantasies onto her and basically thinks she’s the Manic Pixie Dream Girl who will give his life meaning. It’s pretty pathetic and at times creepy.

Once they break up, he sinks into a deep depression and the truly ugly parts begin to overflow. When he’s not being a sullen mess, he’s whinging about why Summer wouldn’t date him despite being such a “nice guy” and basically being all entitled about the whole thing.

Tom is basically the personification of the “nice guy” problem in a nutshell: He gets unhealthily attached to a woman he likes and then gets angry when she rejects him. The character certainly isn’t someone men should look up to in their pursuit of romance, something that Gordon-Levitt wholeheartedly agrees with.

If there’s anything to be learned from the film, it’s don’t be like Tom and fall in love with the idea of a person.

Focus on the stuff on the right hand side and ignore the left.

While Tom ultimately grows and learns from his “nice guy” phase with Autumn, the same can’t be said about real life. If anything, it seems like men have taken all the wrong lessons from 500 Days of Summer and regressed in the decade since the film’s release.

When women are feeling scared for their life while doing regular things like catching an Uber or walking home at night, we’re doing something incredibly wrong. Be better, men.

500 Days of Summer was and still is a perfect example of why the “nice guy” mentality is awful and the lessons taught by that film remain more relevant now than they were 10 years ago. Be the version of Tom who grows up in the end and not the version who obsessively pines over someone to the point where it goes all pear-shaped.

Paul Rudd Speaking Cantonese Hurt My Ears, Now It's Your Turn To Suffer Through It

Stick to being young forever, Paul.

Paul Rudd is a man of many talents, like being a brilliant actor, having an otherworldly sense of comedic timing and staying young forever. But for all his gifts, speaking Cantonese is not one of them. Allow me to explain.

Back in 2000 before Paul was Ant-Man but after he had used up his post-Clueless clout, he starred in some crazy Hong Kong action film titled Gen-Y Cops.

Going from hearthrob in Clueless to being in a random foreign action film is a wild flex but hey, when you’re an actor in Hollywood who is struggling to make ends meet you take what you’re offered, even if that offer means going over to Hong Kong and starring in some film that probably makes no sense to you.

Never mind what the film is all about, all you need to know is Paul is in it as the token white guy, he’s got blonde hair, and he speaks some god-awful Cantonese.

To non-Cantonese speakers, that would’ve sounded like complete gibberish.

To Cantonese speakers like myself, well it still sounded like complete gibberish.

Okay, to Paul’s credit his Cantonese actually makes sense (albeit barely) and
I can confirm that those subtitles are all 100% accurate. Doesn’t make his attempt less cringey though.

Joking aside, I really have to give props to the guy because learning even a few words in Cantonese is incredibly difficult due to all the weird inflections involved. The fact that Paul managed to learn his lines – albeit phonetically – at all deserves all the praise in the (acting) world.

Having said all that, I’ve got a short but important message to Paul Rudd (if he’s reading this), please do literally anything else other than speak Cantonese in a film again because listening to it was painful. Literally.

You're Going To Get Screwed Over By AI On Dating Apps And Not In A Good Way

Instant unmatch.

It probably doesn’t need to be said that online dating isn’t easy and is quite a stressful thing we do in the name of meeting that someone special.

Well I’m sorry to bust all the single people folk on dating apps but finding someone online is about to be even more difficult thanks to a worrying rise of deep fakes.

That doesn’t sound good at all.

For those who are unaware, deep fakes are incredibly real-looking images or videos of people that are in actuality fake and were created using advancing AI technology.

In the context of online dating, there’s an increasing danger of deep fakes flooding dating apps, there’s a higher possibility of swiping right on fake profiles.

As if it wasn’t hard to have someone swipe right on your profile, it’s now even harder to find that special someone since more and more fake people are polluting the pool of real people and it’s incredibly difficult to tell the difference between the two.

This problem actually goes beyond dating as deep fakes has started coming up in actual news and causing genuine confusion, such as the deep fake of Mark Zuckerberg that circled the internet and the altered video of Nancy Pelosi seemingly appearing drunk. And of course there was that gender-swap filter on Snapchat that caused mass confusion on many levels among people of every gender.

Luckily for single people and those trying to debunk all the deep fakes out there, there are a few ways to identify what’s fake and real. AI-created faces have slight imperfections, such as weirdly-placed hair, facial asymmetry, and smudges on certain surfaces like jewellery and teeth, For videos, deep fakes generally blink far less frequently than real people so keep an eye on their eyes.

So next time you’re swiping and you’re wondering whether a certain person is real or not, your worries are definitely warranted. Be careful and safe swiping, everyone.

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