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What Dan Howell Identifying As Queer Means For 'Coming Out' Videos Of The Future

And in a black sequin jacket, no less.

In this digital age, our information is constantly on display and we’re constantly sharing ourselves on public platforms. This is even more true for online creators like Dan Howell, with millions and millions of eyes watching his every move.

After not uploading to his YouTube channel for a year, Dan Howell uploaded a 45 minute video titled Basically, I’m Gay.

For long-time fans, Dan’s sexuality has been a grey area – not that it’s anyone’s business until he says it is. That is exactly what this video addressed, in a very different way to what we’ve come to ‘expect’ of a ‘coming out’ video.

In the past, YouTube personalities and online creators have uploaded tearful confessions of their ‘coming out’. After watching these videos as a queer person, I almost felt like it was a dirty secret that they were forced to reveal about themselves.

While there is absolutely no right way to ‘come out’, there is a way to speak to a large audience about sensitive topics and make a positive impact, if that’s your intent.

In Dan’s video, he spoke about the connotations of the word ‘gay’ having a lasting affect on his mental health and ability to identify himself from an early age. Growing up through the 00s, the word ‘gay’ evolved from the dictionary definitions of ‘happy’ and separately, ‘attracted to the same sex’ and moved into a slur, akin to the word ‘bad’ or ‘shit’.

The video allowed Dan to speak candidly about his long time partner that he has been living with and creating content with for a decade. He revealed that he hadn’t met an openly gay person until he was 18 or seen any representation that he could identify with.

One of the many reasons that this video has struck a chord with his audience and hopefully the wider community, is that Dan spoke about labels in a very real way, shedding light on the privilege that is often ignored.

If you are someone who feels that you don’t want to label yourself, it is so important that you acknowledge your privilege, and acknowledge that it’s not your place to encourage a ‘label-less society’ because some of us need ‘labels’ to find our tribe.

People can find it comforting to look at a word and identify with its meaning and characteristics, we need to encourage those people to find their community and take steps to feeling genuinely accepted.

Moving forward, I think ‘coming out’ videos will be less about the confession of a secret and more educational, and that can only be a good thing. With the ever-increasing list of words and understanding of the sexuality spectrum, gathering as much understanding as we can will lead to a more open and accepting world.

‘Coming out’ looks different for everyone, and please remember that you’re valid even if you’re not waving a rainbow flag and marching at Pride.

To Dan, this video will save lives.

Watch Dan’s full video here:

JoJo Siwa's Claire's Makeup Line Is Recalled After Containing 'Dangerous Levels' Of Asbestos

NoNo Siwa.

You might’ve heard of JoJo Siwa from her time on Dance Moms, or her extensive hair bow line that is available in literally every store in America, or maybe her YouTube collabs with Shane Dawson or North West, or her appearance on Jimmy Fallon.

You’ve definitely seen her face. Or her bows.

Famous

JoJo has collaborated with youth accessory brand, Claire’s on a line of makeup including eyeshadows, lip and nail products which have been recalled by the FDA. No, seriously.

Not ideal.

This isn’t what D.R.E.A.M’s are made of, JoJo.

Claire’s has issued a statement that promises refunds to anyone who purchased the products containing asbestos. How big of them.

Sophie Turner 'Pretending To Be A Lesbian' With Maisie Williams Is Just The Latest Case In Invalidating Queer Women

We need to talk.

I’m not an angry queer woman, but I do own four cats – do with that what you’d like.

Sophie Turner has had the biggest year of her career in 2019, and made a lot of headlines in that time. Game of Thrones, X Men, her marriage to Joe Jonas, mental health, body image, being a deadset legend; but none had prepared me for one that came up on my timeline.

Sophie Turner and Maisie Williams Pretended To Be Lesbian Lovers On Game Of Thrones Set.

Not right

In an interview with Conan O’Brien, Sophie said “We fully knew (that people thought we were together) and we played into it.”

“On the set, we would kind of do the scene, then try and kiss each other in the middle of the scene and see if anyone would react.”

Bad take

It’s no secret that the idea of two women together is often sexualised for the benefit of men. In adult media, women are often ‘exhibitionists’ who are performing instead of enjoying their own sexuality and the intimacy with someone of the same sex.

I thought this was over?

No boys allowed

Not only is ‘pretending to be a lesbian’ such a bad call, but Sophie went on to compare the possibility of a same sex relationship to straight-up incest.

“It’s Game of Thrones, so incest is so normal that they were like, ‘All right, that’s fine’. It was probably the most tame thing that happened on the show, actually.”

Immediately pls

Queer women have been fighting to be heard since the dawn of time and this feels like a giant fumble back.

I love Sophie Turner, I think she’s hilarious and hot and I love her husband. I can’t back her on this one though, it’s just so, so disappointing from her and someone had to call her out on it.

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